Charlotte Roscow

Civil Ceremonies

Why I’m supporting CALM
(Campaign Against Living Miserably)

Charlotte Roscow | 9th October 2019

I’m taking part in the Lost Hours walk for CALM

16 people take their own life every day, leaving behind thousands of friends, family and colleagues. On the one day we are given extra time, we walk for all those for whom there wasn’t enough.

In my own work as a funeral celebrant in Hertfordshire and the surrounding counties, I see this first hand. I'm often meeting the families of people who could no longer cope with the increasing pressures of modern life, and those with depression. The overwhelming majority of these people are men; it's the biggest killer of men under 45, and three quarters of suicides are men. I can corroborate this because almost all of the funerals where someone has committed suicide, have been young men.

That's why I felt compelled to take part in the Lost Hours Walk for CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably). The Lost Hours walk is an opportunity to deal with grief differently and defiantly. It's about smashing the silence around loss, and remember our sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, partners and friends out on the streets of London. It's fittingly planned for the day when the clocks go back, when we are given extra time, so we are walking for those for whom there wasn't enough.

And I personally am walking for all those men who I have had to lay to rest, and their families, and so that we can raise money for these life-saving services.

If you are affected by these issues, here are some places that may be able to help:

Call the CALM Helpline 0800 58 58 58 (OPEN 5PM – MIDNIGHT)
The helpline is for people in the UK who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, who need to talk or find information and support.

If you need immediate help, please call emergency services on 999 or The Samaritans on 116 123